What To Do When Everyone Seems Miles Ahead Of You
By Rachael Taylor
There's a quote I love that I refer back to quite often, "You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great." It's by the world famous Zig Ziglar and has this incredible calming effect on my mind.
As a dedicated and driven entrepreneur, the feeling of not being farther along or being left behind as people whoosh by you is one that I'm all too familiar with. Have you ever felt that way? You'll seek out inspirational and guidance from a mentor, but halfway through your thoughts drift away from what you're learning and turn around on you. This long winded, negative speech that your mind serves you seemed suspiciously prepared and launched too quickly to be an accident.
It's almost like it's been working on it in the background of your mind and waited for the perfect moment to strike. Well, that's exactly what it did.
Your mindset is so powerful because it determines every single thing you do.
It tells you what you can and cannot do, why something should be done or shouldn't and it puts the limit on your success, restricting how far your wings can stretch.
Another famous quote, this time by Henry Ford, "If you think you can or you can't, you're right." sums it up perfectly. Your beliefs and thoughts direct your actions, and they will rise to the surface whenever you bump up against something that takes your mind out of its comfort zone.
There are phrases and things we experience that bring on this sudden, negative thinking because it triggered a deep-rooted fear that we've been avoiding dealing with (or were unaware that it existed in the first place).
As humans, we are naturally competitive. It's within our nature to strive to be our best and to accomplish great things.
Think about the idea of "survival of the fittest", that idea and behavioral pattern has been passed down for more generations that we can count. In the modern world, "the fittest" doesn't necessarily mean athletic - it's taken on a whole new meaning.
Although that has evolved, the behavioral pattern is still the same. Some people call it comparison syndrome - it has many names - but the important thing to know is not what it's called, but what it does to your mind.
It's not that we are jealous of someone's success, it's what what we make their success mean according to where we are - this is a subconscious reaction that has to be noticed before it can be changed.
It could a myriad of things, but I've noticed that it boils down to one universal fear, "I'm not good enough." This is the single biggest fear I run into with my clients as a mindset coach and it's been the strongest one in my life.
When we compare our lives to others (and their business) it triggers the fear that we will never be able to reach our goals because something is inherently wrong with us and it's unfixable.
What you have to realize is, everyone is on their own unique path with their own special set of talents, abilities, traits, qualities and passions. We've all come from different walks of life and it's a part of what makes the world so wonderful. We each bring something beautiful to the table, and it can never be replicated because you are your own special person.
As you walk along your path, you'll come into different seasons of life - just like the seasons of weather. Spring, summer, fall and winter - each of these seasons represent something different, an ebb and flow to life that allows us to grow.
Flowers and plants could not bloom in the spring without the fall and winter planting and growing those seeds. A season of harvest can only happen if the plants grew in the first place. The same happens in life and especially in business.
Each season of business gives you the opportunity to grow in a new way, to reach the next level of income, influence and impact.
For instance, a year ago from this post it would take me two weeks to write a 500-word blog and publish it on my site. Now, I'm a self-published author of my very own book with 40,000+ words and I publish 2-3 blogs every week without breaking a sweat.
That's because I went through a season of developing those muscles and growing in that area. What once was impossible, is now second nature. The same is true for you and your business. Whatever you're growing through (not going, always growing) is there on purpose and has something you can learn from it.
Whenever I'm facing down the fear of "I'm not good enough", I look at the situation that's making me feel that way and I ask myself, "What can I learn from this? How can I make this work for me?"
That simple shift in perspective gives me the opportunity to strengthen my mindset and not stay stuck on feeling small and left behind by my peers.
I encourage you to do the same, any time you are faced with this feeling of not being farther ahead or feeling discouraged where you are, remind yourself that there's something you can learn from it AND it will help your business in the long run if you can learn it now and not have to learn it later.
The simple truth is this - you ARE good enough to accomplish everything you want in your life and build the business of your dreams. It may take time, it will require effort and you might find that there are days when it doesn't feel far enough along, but if you can train your mindset to get through negative criticism and embrace the mantra that you are good enough, your dream business and lifestyle will become your reality.
Remember, being an entrepreneur is a big adventure with limitless possibilities and potential but it requires you to grow, be bold and pull on courage to stand up to what’s in your way. Growing to a new level may not be comfortable, but it’s always worth it.
You have this dream for a reason and it’s the perfect time for you to chase it! Enjoy the journey and trust the process.
From one entrepreneur to another…